At The Natural Love Company, we believe intimacy products should be as inclusive as the people who use them. One of the most common (and important) questions we receive is about toys for trans women and non-binary people with penises. The answer isn’t one-size-fits-all — because bodies and relationships aren’t either — but there are some thoughtful starting points depending on what feels affirming for you.

1. Understanding the Question

Trans women are women who were assigned male at birth and still have a penis. Non-binary penis owners are people who don’t identify strictly as male or female, but also have a penis. In both cases, what matters most is not the anatomy itself but how you relate to it, and what makes you feel comfortable, affirmed, and turned on.

That’s why we avoid blanket recommendations — because while some people with penises enjoy penis-specific toys like strokers, others (particularly those experiencing dysphoria) may prefer toys that feel less anatomy-specific and more versatile.

2. Toys for Those Without Dysphoria

If you’re a trans woman or non-binary person with a penis and you don’t experience dysphoria, stroker-style toys can be a fantastic option. These toys are designed to directly stimulate the shaft and head of the penis, often creating sensations far beyond what hands can achieve.

• Bergamot — Our luxury penis masturbation cup. With a soft silicone sleeve and powerful vibrations, it stimulates the penis in a way that feels both indulgent and affirming.
• Osha — A simple, ribbed stroker sleeve made from silky silicone. Compact, affordable, and non-intimidating, it’s ideal for solo exploration or as a shared toy in partnered play.

Both toys work brilliantly with lube — our Simply Lube (water-based, vegan, eco-friendly) ensures everything feels smooth, natural, and comfortable.

3. Toys for Those With Dysphoria

For some trans women and non-binary penis owners, penis-specific toys like strokers may feel dysphoria-inducing or disconnected from their gender identity. If that’s you, there are plenty of inclusive alternatives.

Wands and versatile vibrators are excellent because they don’t centre the penis — they simply deliver vibration wherever you choose to place them.

• Tulsi — A beautifully designed wand vibrator that offers broad, soothing vibrations across the body.
• Cassia & Cecily — Curved vibrators often marketed for g-spot use, but adaptable for external or internal stimulation on any body.
• Elemi — A bullet vibrator that delivers precise, targeted vibration. Perfect for external pleasure in a compact, discreet form.
• Viola — A finger vibrator that adds a boost of power to your hand, giving control and intimacy without focusing on anatomy.

These toys put control back in your hands — focusing on sensation rather than anatomy.

4. The Joy of Anal Play

Anal play is one of the most universal pleasure pathways, and it doesn’t belong to any single gender. Many trans women and non-binary people with penises find it both affirming and deeply satisfying.

• Arnica Anal Set — A gentle, approachable entry into anal pleasure. With multiple sizes, you can explore at your own pace.
• Quince — A buttery-smooth vibrating butt plug that adds deeper, more rumbly stimulation once you’re ready to explore further.

Anal toys also pair beautifully with vibrators for dual stimulation, and because they’re not tied to genital identity, they often feel more affirming for those managing dysphoria.

5. Framing Pleasure as Affirmation

The best toy for you is the one that helps you feel at home in your body. That might mean leaning into toys that centre the penis, or it might mean exploring toys that shift focus elsewhere. There’s no “right” or “wrong” way — just what feels good, affirming, and joyful to you.

Some of our customers find that using toys marketed for a different anatomy actually feels more affirming, because it allows them to reframe how their body is experienced. Others prefer toys designed specifically for their penis, embracing it as part of their pleasure. Both approaches are valid.

6. Practical Considerations

• Use water-based lube: Not only does it make everything more comfortable, but it also keeps toys (especially silicone ones) safe. Simply Lube is compatible with every toy we sell.
• Cleaning matters: Use a gentle, toy-safe cleaner like Simply Toy Cleaner. It’s vegan, eco-friendly, and suitable for all materials.
• Experiment and adapt: Don’t be afraid to try different styles. Sometimes the toy you least expect becomes the one you use most.

7. Why Inclusivity Matters

We know that much of the adult toy industry historically catered to a narrow, heteronormative idea of who sex toys are “for.” That’s changing — and we’re proud to be part of that change. Stocking toys for penis-havers in a queer-affirming space isn’t just good business. It’s about recognising that everyone deserves intimacy products that affirm who they are.

8. Final Thoughts

Whether you’re a trans woman or a non-binary person with a penis, your pleasure is valid and worth celebrating. From strokers like Bergamot and Osha, to versatile vibrators like Tulsi, Cassia, Cecily, Elemi, and Viola, to anal-friendly options like Arnica and Quince, there’s a wide spectrum of toys that can help you explore, affirm, and enjoy your body on your own terms.

Because in the end, the best sex toy isn’t defined by anatomy — it’s defined by how it makes you feel.