I know we’re a bit biased, but let’s face it – when chosen wisely, sex toys can truly elevate your sexual experiences, whether you’re flying solo or with a partner. Now, I won’t pretend they’re a one-size-fits-all solution, and sure, you can definitely miss the mark if you’re not careful. But fear not! That’s precisely why we’ve crafted this (hopefully!) dependable guide. So, grab your favourite mug of tea, cosy up with your partner if they’re already on board, and prepare for some learnings which promise to enhance your sex life in ways you never imagined.

In this guide, we’re diving headfirst into the world of couples’ sex toys, tackling everything from communication to experimentation. We’ll navigate the delicate art of introducing sex toys into your relationship, exploring topics like discussing preferences and boundaries, overcoming hesitations and taboos, and even the age-old question of whether shopping together is a good idea. But we won’t stop there. We’ll also delve into the basics of selecting the right toys—aesthetics included—and what makes a sex toy truly suitable for beginner couples sex toy play. From there, we’ll unveil our top ten picks for couples, each designed to ignite passion and foster intimacy in your relationship.

And of course, we’ll touch on the importance of safety, offering tips for proper cleaning and storage of your beloved toys.

So, whether you’re a seasoned pro or just dipping your toes into the world of sex toys, get ready for an exhilarating journey of exploration and discovery. Your sex life is about to get a serious upgrade, and we couldn’t be more excited to be your guide.

Introducing sex toys into your relationship – The WHY.

Bringing sex toys into partnered sex can genuinely unlock a whole new world of pleasure for both you and your partner. These innovative couples sex toys offer sensations and experiences that our bodies just simply can’t replicate on their own—think pulsing and vibrating in ALL the right places. These unique sensations can lead to more consistent and intense orgasms, making your intimate moments even more fulfilling. Plus, the sheer variety of toys available means there’s always something new to explore, keeping your sex life fresh and exciting.

Contrary to common beliefs, sex toys actually bring you closer not just sexually but as a couple, as they force you to communicate your desires in order to find the right couples sex toys. Introducing sex toys into your relationship isn’t just about adding an extra element of pleasure; it’s about enhancing intimacy, fostering open communication, and promoting mutual exploration. By incorporating sex toys into your play, you’re not only expanding your sexual repertoire but also deepening your emotional connection with your partner.

Moreover, sex toys can help break out of routine and revitalize a stagnant sex life, or simply be used an arousal kick-starter when one of you isn’t as aroused as you’d like (there is nothing like a quick vibe on your clit to get things going!). Couples sex toys introduce new elements of excitement and adventure, reigniting passion and desire in long-term relationships. Couples sex toys can also level the playing field by providing equal pleasure for partners who may have differing levels of arousal or responsiveness. This inclusivity ensures that both partners can fully enjoy and participate in the sexual experience.

Exploring sex toys together can also be a fun and educational experience, allowing partners to learn more about their own bodies and each other’s preferences. It encourages open communication and mutual exploration, deepening intimacy and trust in the relationship.

Lastly, incorporating sex toys into your sex life adds an element of playfulness and excitement. It encourages experimentation and creativity in the bedroom, fostering a sense of fun and adventure between partners. So why hesitate? Embrace the opportunity to enhance your sex life and strengthen your bond with your partner through the exciting world of sex toys.

Introducing sex toys into your relationship – The HOW.

But despite the growing acceptance of sex toys, many still hesitate to introduce them into their relationships. Why the pause? Well, it often stems from outdated beliefs that toys are only for solo play, while partnered sex should rely solely on physical connection. This misconception is further perpetuated by marketing that portrays toys as solutions to sexual problems or substitutes for absent partners. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, especially among individuals who rarely engage with toys. But let’s set the record straight: an interest in toys is not a reflection of anyone’s sexual performance or a threat to intimacy. In reality, using sex toys with a partner is an opportunity for honesty, exploration and enhancement, not a replacement for ‘traditional’ intimacy. So instead of worrying about being perceived as “weird,” why not embrace the chance to expand your sexual horizons together for the better?

Consider the timing:

Introducing sex toys into your relationship isn’t a spur-of-the-moment decision. Timing is crucial. Trying to surprise your partner with a new toy during intimacy might backfire, leaving them feeling uncomfortable or pressured. Instead, set aside dedicated time outside of the bedroom to discuss this topic openly and honestly. This could be during a relaxed evening at home or over a cup of coffee at your favourite café. By choosing the right moment, you create a comfortable atmosphere conducive to meaningful conversation.

Don’t criticise or apologise:

When broaching the topic of sex toys with your partner, it’s essential to approach it with sensitivity and understanding. Avoid connecting your interest in toys to any dissatisfaction with your current sex life. Criticizing or apologizing for your desires can create unnecessary tension and insecurity. Instead, frame the discussion as an exploration—an opportunity to enhance mutual pleasure and deepen intimacy. Emphasise that your interest in incorporating toys is a natural extension of your desire to explore new avenues of pleasure together.

Don’t force the idea:

It’s crucial to respect your partner’s boundaries and comfort levels when discussing sex toys. If your partner isn’t receptive to the idea initially, pushing or insisting will only create tension and resentment. Instead, approach the conversation with patience and understanding. Listen to your partner’s concerns without judgment and offer reassurance that their feelings are valid. If they’re hesitant, explore the reasons behind their reluctance and address any misconceptions or fears they may have. Remember, mutual consent and enthusiasm are key to a fulfilling sexual experience.

Be truly open to the idea of exploration:

Introducing sex toys into your relationship is a collaborative journey. Rather than dictating how it should unfold, embrace the spirit of exploration and discovery together. Keep the lines of communication open, discussing your desires, preferences, and boundaries openly and honestly. Encourage your partner to share their fantasies and experiment with different toys and techniques. By approaching this experience with curiosity and mutual respect, you create a safe and supportive environment for exploration and growth.

Have fun with it:

Above all, remember that incorporating sex toys into your relationship should be enjoyable and lighthearted. Embrace the playful aspect of exploring new sensations and experiences together. Don’t be afraid to laugh, experiment, and celebrate each other’s pleasure. Even if things don’t go exactly as planned, maintain a sense of humour and perspective. The journey of sexual exploration is as much about the connection and intimacy you share with your partner as it is about the destination.

But where the heck to start I hear you ask? Well, as a retailer of some of the worlds most aesthetic, un-intimidating and blimin’ effective sex toys, we can at least point you in the direction of some of our best selling sex toys for couples:

Our top 10 couples sex toy picks for the discerning dabbler:

1. Cassia | The PERFECT all-rounder

Dual-ended and Curved Wand Vibrator

Introducing the captivating Cassia, a dual-ended marvel with a deeply rumbly wand vibrator for clitoral stimulation on one end paired with a G-spot targeting vibrating dildo on the other, all encased in buttery soft pastel pink silicone. Perhaps you tease and tantalise your clitoris with the delicate wand as you give your partner oral?

2. Elemi | Great for those who are a little shy to the idea.

Discreet, Ocean Plastic, Bullet Vibrator

This little dynamo stands at only a few inches tall but still packs a punch with an array of rumbly vibration patterns, from a gentle tease through to total ‘wow’ mode. Elemi is perfect for those who really want to introduce sex toys into their play but are perhaps a little more conservative about the idea. Elemi is super discreet, and very quiet – apart from the the pleasure, you’ll barely know it’s there!

3. Cilantro | A couples sex toy classic.

Multi-speed Rabbit Cock Ring

I mean, essentially Cilantro turns the penis in your life into your vibrator, what’s not to love, and hey, it doesn’t feel too bad for them too, with the blood flow restricting effects proven to also prolong ejaculation. Win. Win. Cilantro is designed so that its ‘rabbit ears’ keep precise contact with the clit during hetero penetrative sex but there are a myriad of lgbtqia+ play options for vibrating cock-ring play, from attaching it to your favourite Dill, to wearing it during the perfect handjob to name just a few.

4. Dill G-Curve | For when one penis isn’t enough…

6″ G-Spot Centric Silicone Dildo with Suction Cup

Dill G-Curve opens up a whole world of common couples’ fantasies. Alone, it’s a soft silicone dildo, perfectly sculpted to reach the allusive g-spot, but when thrown into partner play it’s your ticket to play with fantasies surrounding double penetration and spit-roasting (imagine Dill attached to a smooth surface such as a shower door or mirror with its suction cup design, whilst you give your partner oral).

5. Cistus | For clitoral stimulation which can be worn during penetrative sex

Dual G-Spot & Clitoral Vibrator with Remote

So think of Cistus as your one-way ticket to a ‘blended orgasm’ from both internal and external stimulation. Where does this come into couples play I hear you ask? Well, Cistus’ U shape can be worn during penetrative sex, keeping constant contact with your clitoris with the added bonus of thrilling vibrations on the penis. Bonus – it comes with a remote control, so this wearable vibrator could be discreetly worn out for dinner with the remote in the palm of your partner’s hands across the table.

6. Litsea | PERFECT for those who want to bring a little anal play into the bedroom.

Classic Tear Drop Glass Butt Plug

Litsea is the Goldilocks of the Butt Plug world, not too big, not too small, just right – perfect for newbies to tinker with, but still has enough to it to give pleasure to those more seasoned with anal play. For couples it’s a great introduction as the intimidation factor of Litsea couldn’t be lower, I’d go as far as saying it’s beautiful. Something butt plugs are seldom described as!

7. Kanuka Handcuffs | For BDSM and power play

Soft Handcuffs with Control Cord

Kanuka Handcuffs feature a natural hemp jute colouring, and for a rope-based product are super soft. They are pre-tied in a ‘Kinbaku’ style (an ancient Japanese BDSM practice) with an easy-to-adjust, tighten and release slip knot and tightening collar. Kanuka Handcuffs feature a tethered loop, perfect for tying to a bedpost or wherever your BDSM play takes you.

8. Camelia Blindfold | Another couples sex toy staple

Adjustable Cork Leather Blindfold

Sensory deprivation may not sound sexy to some on the face of it, but there is something absolutely arousing about being blindfolded, not only because all of your other senses are heightened, but because of the power play dynamic it introduces. So.many.possibilites!

9. Simply Lube & Toy Cleaner Set | An absolute couples sex essential set.

Life is better with lube. Period. Perhaps not just any old lube though, Simply Lube is super skin-kind, and feels like just your body’s own natural lubrication, free of stickiness or overpowering artificial tastes or odours. Free from the usual nasties and known skin irritants that sexual lubricants usually contain (Glycerin, Glycol and Parabens, to name a few). Simply Lube contains 99.2% organic ingredients, including a touch of calming and soothing Aloe Vera. As a water-based lubricant, Simply Lube is naturally toy-safe and condom compatible.

Getting a UTI from a sex toy isn’t fun, but it happens. Simply Toy Cleaner is a unique antibacterial spray-based formula intending to swiftly and gently cleanse your favourite sex toys so that they’re always ready for the next session. Simply spray the entire surface of your sex toy liberally, wait 30 seconds for it to work its cleansing antibacterial magic, and then rinse with cool water (subject to toy manufacturer instructions). Simply Toy Cleaner is compatible with our full range of sex toys.

10. Couples Sex Toy Hamper | For those who just can’t decide.

Get Closer, Get Kinkier – Spice up Couples Play

This isn’t just a collection of products; it’s a carefully curated kit of fun, deeper connection and next level orgasms! Together, these products are more than the sum of their parts – They’re the ultimate toolkit for intimacy. Embark on one ‘hellova journey of mutual pleasure!

And that’s it. Boundless opportunities, eh? We hope this has been a fun read and it really does add a little value to your sex toy journey for you and your partner. Can we help any more? Do drop us an email if you need any more assistance with product selection!