Many people feel the sex toy industry is reserved for women and people who have a vagina, which is a common misconception. Actually, there is an abundance of toys on the market designed specifically for men and those with a penis. So before we get stuck in, here is our top TNLC picks!
1. Best masturbation cup
Bergamot
Slip your or your partner’s penis into the soft silicone sheath and let the magic unfold. With powerful vibrations emanating from the flexible flange, Bergamot stimulates both the head and shaft of the penis, creating intense sensations that will build you up to a strong and unique orgasm.
2. Best penis stroker
Linden is our take on a thrusting masturbator sex toy for people with a penis, one which offers one heck of an experience at that.
3. Best prostate massager
Davana
Davana is the ONLY prostate massager you could possibly ever need. Crafted from the softest silicone, Davana has those classic prostate hitting curves with an innovative twist – it not only vibrates but also rotates in a variable-speed circular stroking motion! Maximum satisfaction is somewhat guaranteed during anal play, with this little beauty.
4. Best male sex toy for those on a budget
Osha
Osha, our sensational ribbed silicone penis stroker, is your ticket to unparalleled pleasure in the palm of your hand. Its compact, ergonomic design boasts both aesthetic appeal and functionality, offering a uniquely stimulating experience that surpasses traditional hand masturbation.
5. Best traditional cock ring
Mace
Hewn from body-safe 8mm stainless steel, Mace is a metal cock ring set designed to be worn over both your shaft and testicles with unparalleled constriction results including stronger erections, delaying ejaculation and therefore stronger orgasms! Not sure which fit, well Mace offers a selection of three different sizes to ensure you find the perfect fit for your body and desires.
6. Best vibrating cock ring
Cilantro
We’re going out on a limb and saying it, Cilantro is the PERFECT vibrating cock ring. Cilantro, with its recycled ocean plastic core adorning a buttery smooth sanitary grade silicone, finished in a contemporary peacock blue, is our coveted ‘rabbit-eared’ cock ring. Designed for a fusion of pleasure for both partners during partnered sex, plus we’ve got to say it, it looks nice too!
7. Best male sex toy for couples
Medlar
Introducing Medlar a sky-blue cock ring offering a unique twist on the classic, design, purposefully crafted to complement the curves of the vulva with appropriately sized vibrating prongs designed to hug the clitoris, bridging the gap between internal and external stimulation. Medlar acts as an intimate bridge of pleasure between you and your partner, they feel the vibrations surge through their shaft as you grind the vulva-hugging prongs. Heavenly.
We’re going to dive into the different types of male toys there are available, help you find the next toy you’d like to try, debunk the most common myths surrounding penis play and answer all the questions you could possibly have on the subject of male sex toys. It’s called the ultimate guide for a reason.
Let’s start with an easy one, what exactly is a male sex toy?
To put it simply, male sex toys are any kind of toy that has been designed specifically for the ‘male’ anatomy, more precisely the penis, balls, and/or the prostate. They’re typically marketed towards cis men, but are equally created for and can be used by anyone with these body parts.
Types of Male Sex Toys
Masturbation cups: A kind of vibrating sex toy that is designed to “cup” around the shaft of the penis for intense pleasure during masturbation. An excellent male vibrator.
Penis strokers and fleshlights: Usually made from a soft and flexible material, designed to enhance traditional masturbation by providing a sensation that cannot be achieved by hand. The toys feature a hole for inserting the penis and many have inner textures designed to mimic vaginal, anal, or oral sex. They can also be known as “pocket pussies” or “stroker sleeves” and they’re usually enjoyed manually, however there are ones on the market that vibrate and stroke mechanically, like our thrusting masturbator Linden.
Cock rings: A circular shaped and usually flexible sex toy designed to be worn around the base of the penis. Its purpose is to restrict blood flow in order to produce and maintain a stronger erection for a longer period of time. We don’t know many people who aren’t after those results!
Cock rings can be bought as just the ring itself (an example of this would be Mace, our metal cock rings) but more commonly come with a vibrating element that’s primarily designed to stimulate the clitoris during penis-in-vagina sex (an example of this would be Cilantro, our multi-speed rabbit cock ring). Some cock rings also have an element that is worn around the testicles, but not all.
Prostate massagers: Inserted anally to stimulate the prostate, also known as the male G-spot. They’re usually fairly large in size with an external element that rests on the perineum (the area between the anus and genitals). Prostate massagers usually vibrate and can also commonly have features like rotation, which sounds incredible if you ask us.
Penis pumps: A cylindrical device intended to be placed over and around the penis to create an air-tight seal. They usually have a pump element which creates a suction and pressure when squeezed, although some do this automatically. Penis pumps increase blood flow to the penis and can help achieve a stronger, and many believe bigger, erections.
Penis extenders: An accessory worn over the penis to enhance girth and length for penetrative sex. Kind of like a strap-on for those who already have a penis. They often have a loop element that’s worn around the balls to secure the toy in place.
Sex dolls: Human-like and life-sized dolls intended to act in place of a sexual partner. They usually have holes in the mouth, vagina, and/or anus areas designed for insertion and stimulation of the penis. Sex dolls can be inexpensive and inflatable or incredibly elaborate, realistic, and pricey. They will make you jump out of your skin if you walk into a room containing one.
What Are Male Sex Toys Made Out Of?
The most common materials used for male sex toys are silicone, plastic, jelly rubber, and metal. Our favorite materials for male toys are silicone and sanitary-grade metal because they’re both body-safe, durable, and make for an easy clean! Materials like jelly rubber and plastic can often be porous, meaning they can absorb bacteria and be almost impossible to clean fully. Porous toys must be used with a condom to ensure safety for that reason, which can be inconvenient.
For vibrating toys, the inner structure is usually made with plastic and metal.
How to Choose the Right Male Sex Toy for You
It can be tricky to know exactly what you want from a toy until you’ve given a few a go, but usually if you have a little browse and you see something that looks appealing, it’s almost always going to be fun to try it!
Before committing, have a think about what you want from your toy, the use you’re intending it for, your experience level, what material you’d like, and your budget. Those are all really important factors to consider! Are you wanting to use your toy in the bath? If so, then don’t forget to make sure it’s waterproof pre-purchase!
As always, we have some cracking recommendations…
- If you’re a beginner and looking for your very first male sex toy, we’d recommend something simple like Osha, our silicone ribbed penis stroker. It’s non-intimidating and will level up your masturbation sessions instantly. It’s made fully from a buttery soft and squishy silicone for comfort, it’s straightforward to use, and has an easy-to-clean design. With a healthy slug of lube, it’s like wanking with your very own handheld vagina.
- If you want something even simpler and smaller to start than that, take a look at Mace, our set of three stainless steel cock rings. A simple metal ring in three different sizes designed to be worn around both your shaft and testicles. Wearing one constricts the area and can result in stronger erections, delaying ejaculation, and therefore stronger orgasms! They’re a great beginner’s toy for enhancing both masturbation and/or penetrative sex.
- Anyone who’s looking to explore prostate stimulation (AKA the male G-Spot or the P-Spot) should try a prostate massager like Davana. Davana combines rotation and vibration to target the prostate gland, which is a very pleasurable erogenous zone for cis men. Enjoy!
- If you fancy a touch of vibration during masturbation, we’d suggest taking Bergamot for a spin. Bergamot is our luxury masturbation cup, which vibrates around the penis for an intense and powerful orgasm you’ve never experienced before.
- For heterosexual couples, a vibrating cock ring would work double duty and increase pleasure for both of you simultaneously. Choose your fighter. Cilantro, Medlar, and Boronia all boast a cock ring alongside a form of vibrating clitoral stimulation.
- Maybe you’re already experienced with sex toys and you want to try something new that’ll absolutely blow your socks off… in which case we highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend Linden, our thrusting penis masturbator. Linden is an experience. It thrusts, it wanks, it vibrates, and it pleasures you in a way you’ve never been pleasured before.
How to Use Male Sex Toys
Since there are different types of male sex toys, different bodies, and everyone has different preferences in terms of what feels good, there’s not a one-size-fits-all process to using male sex toys. That said, you can certainly rely on us to provide some guidance!
Our Top Tips:
- Be sure to thoroughly clean and sanitize your toy before and after every use.
- Read the manufacturer’s instructions on how to use the toy safely. There’s almost always clear instructions for use in the product description and/or on the packaging. At The Natural Love Company, we have a webpage dedicated to product instructions and care advice on www.thenaturallovecompany.com/care.
- Lube! A personal lubricant is always beneficial when it comes to sex and using toys, but especially for male sex toys!!!!! The penis and the anus don’t provide natural lubricant like a vagina does. Lube is absolutely essential for penile stimulating toys as well as prostate stimulating toys if you’d like a comfortable, pleasurable, and most importantly, safe experience.
A water-based lubricant like Simply Lube would be our recommendation. And not just because it’s by us! Water-based lube is our top pick and Simply Lube just happens to be a really good one.
Simply Lube is a vegan, cruelty-free, and kind to your skin personal lubricant. It’s made with 99.2% organic ingredients and comes in a compostable bottle (so that you can fuck yourself without fucking the planet!) and of course, it’s water-based, which means it’s toy-safe and condom compatible, which is very important to consider when choosing a lube! Simply Lube comes in two editions, Aloe Vera and Wild Strawberry! See? Doesn’t that sound good? We told you it’s good!
- Upon use of vibrating and/or rotating toys, it’s worth cycling through the different modes and intensities on the toy before using it on yourself. Find the gentlest setting and start with that and work your way up (or don’t!) to your favorite setting.
- Before enjoying a prostate massager, ease yourself in with a cheeky finger or a butt plug before inserting the toy itself, especially if you’re new to anal play. Begin smaller and gradually advance to bigger (and better) things.
- If you’re using a vibrator with a partner, as always, communication is the key. Let one another know what you each like, what’s comfortable, and what feels good continuously throughout use together. This is crucial for fun and safe play for everyone involved.
How to Clean and Take Care of Your Male Sex Toys
It’s a no-brainer that cleaning and maintaining your sex toys is really important, right? We hope so anyway! For hygiene and longevity, all sex toys should be cleaned before and after every use and then properly stored until your next rendezvous.
Each toy can be different to clean depending on its type, material, and whether or not the toy is waterproof. It’s important to read the manufacturer’s advice for each specific toy. At The Natural Love Company, you can find product instructions and care advice for all of our toys at www.thenaturallovecompany.com/care.
For your toy(s) to be fully clean, it’s recommended to use a cleaner specifically for sex toys, like Simply Toy Cleaner! Using a sex toy cleaner ensures that it’s compatible with the material of your toy and guarantees a thorough clean. In the case of any toy cleaner, always follow the manufacturer’s guidance on the bottle upon use.
In regards to storage, first things first, make sure the toy is fully dry post-clean before putting it away! After that, the golden rule is usually to keep your sex toys in a cool dry place, but again, it’s important to read the manufacturer’s advice for each individual toy. Sex toys also often come packaged in a cute little storage pouch or case to keep the toy dust-free *cough cough* like ours do.
Male Sex Toy Myths and Misconceptions
There are way too many myths and misconceptions when it comes to people with a penis using sex toys, so let’s debunk some together.
1. “Sex toys are only for women”
Sex toys are often associated with female pleasure, but quite frankly the idea that only women should use sex toys is nonsense. All genders can use sex toys, and there are quite obviously, as explored in this guide, a whole bunch of toys designed for those assigned male at birth. Sex toys are for everyone, and no person on this earth who enjoys said toys should feel any shame because of their gender. Period!
2. “Male sex toys are only for single or lonely people”
The recurrent narrative is that women can use sex toys, vibrators, and dildos whenever they want… and that men only use them when they can’t find a partner. More nonsense. Many men in happy, healthy relationships enjoy sex toys and plenty use those toys alongside their sexual partner(s) as well as for solo masturbation. Whether or not someone enjoys sex toys is not a reflection on their social or relationship status. Sex toys can also be combined with digital experiences to enhance pleasure and intimacy. Men can explore interactive AI partners, virtual reality scenarios, or even create an AI character to personalise their sexual experiences. Integrating toys with AI opens up new ways to explore fantasies, communicate preferences, and deepen both solo and partnered experiences.
3. “Toys will desensitize you and make you enjoy sexual partners less”
It’s so unlikely that a sex toy or vibrator will desensitize you. And let’s say for argument’s sake that it did, well even in that case it would only be temporary. A lot of people irrationally worry that using toys may “ruin” any future sex with a partner and it frequently seems to be the idea that men are the ones deemed as though they’re going to replace all present and future sexual partners with a pocket pussy.
The reality is, that even the most phenomenal of toys (we’re looking at you, Linden) will not replace the experience of having sexual interactions with a partner. It’s also a misconception that regular use of toys, more specifically vibrators, will impact your ability to orgasm with a partner. But actually, specialists have said that the psychological factor of just worrying about that can do more damage to your ability to orgasm than a vibrator ever could.
4. “Enjoying anal sex toys makes you gay”
There are three important points here:
- Enjoying anal pleasure doesn’t make you gay.
- Enjoying anal pleasure doesn’t make you gay.
- Enjoying anal pleasure doesn’t make you gay.
Does that clear things up? It’s incredibly common for heterosexual men to enjoy anal stimulation because most men have a prostate gland, something cis women don’t have, and if you aren’t aware, can be ridiculously pleasurable when stimulated anally. It’s not dubbed the male G-spot for no reason and that’s why prostate massagers exist. Because it feels so good (regardless of your sexuality!)
Penis Play FAQs
Can you use lube with male sex toys?
Yes, and it’s heavily encouraged! The penis and the anus don’t produce any natural lubricant, so it’s paramount that you use a personal lube to help you grease the wheels when using sex toys. That said, it’s important to note that there are different kinds of lube and that some may not be safe for use with your toys.
Here are the basic rules:
- Silicone-based lube should not be used with silicone toys because it can degrade the material of the toy.
- Oil-based lubricant can be used safely with most sex toys, but it is important to remember that oil-based is not compatible for use with condoms because it can break down and degrade the material of the condom.
- Water-based lube (such as Simply Lube) is always the safest option. It’s almost always compatible with sex toys and is usually safe for use with condoms.
Are male sex toys safe to use?
Male sex toys are absolutely safe to use as long as they are made from body-safe materials (silicone and sanitary-grade metal are the safest options when it comes to male toys) and as long as the toys are used with safe practice. Things to think about for safe play include making sure your toys are cleaned properly before and after each use, following manufacturer use, care, and storage instructions, and listening to your body when something doesn’t feel right.
If you’re sharing your toys, the primary step is cleanliness. You can get an STI (sexually transmitted infection) from sharing sex toys if you’re not careful. When sharing a toy with a new partner or in a non-monogamous relationship, barrier protection such as condoms or dental dams should be used between each person, as well as thoroughly cleaning your toys between each person.
Can men use sex toys that aren’t specifically designed for the penis or prostate?
Of course! There are lots of sex toys outside of the category of “male sex toys” that can be used by men. All sex toys can be used for all genders and do not need to be bound to one specific use, so there is absolutely no reason men should limit themselves to just male masturbators, cock rings, and prostate massagers.
Can male sex toys help with erectile dysfunction?
Some male sex toys, like cock rings and penis pumps, are designed to increase blood flow to the penis, which definitely has potential to help someone with erectile dysfunction achieve and maintain an erection. Which is great! However, sex toys shouldn’t replace medical treatment and advice, so if you’re concerned about ED then we advise you to consult your GP or healthcare provider.
Can I use male sex toys with a partner?
Absolutely! Using sex toys with any consenting partner(s) is like the cherry on top of an already delicious cake. While you can incorporate any toy into partnered sex, there are many male toys specifically designed for the purpose of using as a couple. A great example of this is cock rings, with many having clitoral stimulating attachments (like Cilantro, Medlar, and Boronia) for pleasuring both parties simultaneously during heterosexual intercourse.
How long can I wear a cock ring for?
Cock rings should generally not be worn for more than 20-30 minutes at a time. Wearing a cock ring for too long can restrict blood flow excessively, leading to discomfort or potential injury. Always remove the ring if you feel any pain, numbness, or discomfort. Safety first!
Is it normal to use sex toys as a man?
Yep! Super normal. It’s totally normal to desire sexual pleasure, and sex toys of all kinds are a normal and healthy way to achieve that pleasure.
Can I use male sex toys if I have a medical condition or disability?
In many cases, yes, of course! And people with health conditions and disabilities deserve pleasure just as much as anyone else! However, it’s important to check with a healthcare professional if you have any concerns relating to your specific situation, so that you can ensure safe practice!
