We want to shine a light on an often-overlooked aspect of childbirth recovery: sexuality. The journey of rediscovering intimacy and pleasure after childbirth can be complex and varied, and we believe that every mother deserves the opportunity to navigate this journey with care, compassion, and confidence. For many people, the idea of returning to sex or sex toy masturbation after childbirth can feel daunting and overwhelming. From physical discomfort to emotional challenges, there are numerous factors to consider when it comes to post-partum sexuality.

Let’s face it, the focus often shifts entirely to the needs of the newborn, leaving little room for the profound changes occurring within your body and psyche. It’s a time of immense adjustment, both physically and emotionally, as sleepless nights blur into days filled with feeding schedules and diaper changes. Amidst this whirlwind, the notion of reclaiming one’s sexuality may seem like a distant and elusive prospect.

In this blog post, we delve into the intricacies of all things sex after giving birth, exploring the myriad ways in which childbirth can impact one’s relationship with their body, their partner, and their own desires. From the physical changes wrought by childbirth to the emotional rollercoaster of new parenthood, we offer insights and strategies for navigating this uncharted territory.

How long do I have to wait after child birth before sex and sex toys?

One of the most pressing questions on many new parents’ minds who are considering sex or masturbation with sex toys after childbirth: How long after childbirth until I can resume sex and masturbation? While the medical community often provides a general guideline of waiting six weeks postpartum before engaging in penetrative sex, the reality is far more nuanced. Everybody is unique, and the timeline for resuming sexual activity varies widely from person to person. Factors such as the type of delivery, the presence of complications, and individual healing processes all play a role in determining when it’s safe to resume sexual activity.

But beyond the physical aspect lies the equally important realm of emotional readiness. For many new parents, the journey of childbirth is not just a physical ordeal but an emotional and psychological one as well. From the hormonal fluctuations of the postpartum period to the profound shift in identity that comes with parenthood, there’s a lot to process before diving back into intimacy.

You may feel ready for some sexual activities, such as using a vibrator or dildo sooner than others, say partnered sex.

The Physical Considerations

Whether you delivered vaginally or via C-section, your body has been through a lot, and it’s essential to give it the time and care it needs to heal properly. For those who had a vaginal delivery, your body will need some time to recover from any tearing or episiotomy. Similarly, if you underwent a C-section, while the incision may be recovering nicely, it’s still healing on the inside, and pushing yourself too soon can cause complications or discomfort. Give yourself plenty of time to rest and recover before considering getting intimate again. Stitches and wounds need time to heal, and rushing back into penetrative sex before you’re ready can lead to discomfort or even pain. It’s crucial to listen to your body and its physical cues including any sharp pain, blood or discharge, and wait until you feel physically comfortable before jumping back into the sheets whether for sex or masturbation using sex toys.

The Emotional Considerations

Ok your body is ready, but are you ready, ready? Let’s shift our focus to the emotional side of things. Bringing a new life into the world is a beautiful and transformative experience, but it can also bring about a whirlwind of hormones and emotions. From joy and love to exhaustion and overwhelm, becoming a parent is a rollercoaster ride of feelings.

It’s essential to acknowledge and honour whatever emotions you’re experiencing as you navigate this new chapter. You may find yourself feeling more tired and drained than usual, or you may be processing feelings of anxiety or depression. All of these emotions are entirely valid and normal, and it’s crucial to give yourself permission to feel them without judgment.

Your libido, or lack thereof, might also be a factor. It’s not uncommon for new parents, particularly mothers, to experience fluctuations in their sex drive after childbirth. Hormonal changes, fatigue, and the demands of caring for a newborn can all impact your desire for sex. And while it’s entirely normal for your libido to ebb and flow during this time, it can still be frustrating if you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Equally,

When it comes to getting back into the swing of things sexually, your emotional well-being plays a significant role. If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, it can be challenging to connect with your partner or arguably more importantly, yourself, on an intimate level.

Take the time to check in with yourself and your partner regularly. Communicate openly about how you’re feeling and what you need from each other. Remember that it’s okay to take things slow and prioritize self-care during this time, you shouldn’t feel guilt or pressure from external factors

Baby Steps To Reclaiming Intimacy

If penetrative sex with your partner or sex toys doesn’t feel quite right for you or your body yet, fear not – there are plenty of other ways to connect intimately. Non-penetrative activities can be just as fulfilling and satisfying, allowing you to bond and enjoy each other’s company without any pressure or expectations.

One of the simplest and most effective ways to connect intimately is through non-sexual touch. Whether it’s holding hands, cuddling on the couch, or giving each other massages, physical touch can help strengthen your bond and foster feelings of closeness and intimacy. Take the time to explore each other’s bodies in a gentle and loving way, focusing on pleasure and connection.

If you’re looking for other ways to connect, consider engaging in shared activities that you both enjoy. Whether it’s going for a walk in nature, cooking a meal together, or watching your favourite movie, finding activities that you can enjoy as a couple can help strengthen your connection and create lasting memories. And don’t underestimate the power of communication in fostering intimacy. Take the time to talk to each other openly and honestly about your desires, fantasies, and boundaries. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner can help deepen your connection and create a sense of emotional intimacy that is just as important as physical intimacy.

Of course, if you’re both feeling up for it, there’s nothing wrong with exploring other forms of sexual activity that don’t involve penetration. Whether it’s mutual masturbation, oral sex, or using sex toys together, there are plenty of ways to experience pleasure and intimacy without engaging in penetrative sex.

Ultimately, the key to non-penetrative intimacy and connection is to focus on what feels good for both you and your partner. Take the time to explore different activities and techniques, and don’t be afraid to get creative. Remember that intimacy is about more than just sex – it’s about connecting with your partner on a deeper level and sharing moments of joy, laughter, and love together.

Using a Dilator Set After Giving Birth

Introducing our Wisteria Dilator Set into your postpartum recovery routine can be a gentle and effective way to reclaim comfort and intimacy after childbirth sooner. Make a ritual of it, run a luxurious bath and create a nice relaxing and enjoyable environment to use Wisteria. Begin slowly, starting with the smallest dilator and applying our organic water-based lube for smooth insertion into your vagina. Progress gradually as your body adjusts, moving up to the larger dilators at your own pace. With Wisteria’s ergonomic design and buttery-smooth silicone material, you should experience comfort and ease throughout each dilation session. Wisterias largest size dilator is not dissimilar to the size of an erect penis, so once you can comfortably use this without pain or discomfort, perhaps you’re ready physically for penetrative sex!

Can You Use Sex Toys After Childbirth?

Incorporating sex toys into your postpartum recovery regime can be transformative for both physical healing and emotional well-being. Start by selecting toys that cater to your specific needs and desires. Above we addressed how those experiencing discomfort during penetrative sex can consider using a dilator set like our Wisteria, designed to gently stretch and expand vaginal muscles over time. Other sex toy types can also be a great tools for rediscovering sex and masturbation after childbirth.

Can You Use a Dildo After Childbirth?

When it comes to incorporating dildos into your postpartum recovery regime, it’s essential, like a dilator set to focus on gradual progression. Start with smaller-sized dildos and gradually work your way up as your body becomes more accustomed to penetration. Opt for dildos with ergonomic designs and tapered shapes, like Dill G-Curve making insertion and use more comfortable and pleasurable by stimulating your g-spot.

Experiment with different textures and shapes to find what feels best for you. Some dildos feature ridges, curves, or bulbous heads designed to target specific erogenous zones and provide enhanced stimulation.

Can You Use a Vibrator After Childbirth?

When it comes to postpartum sexual recovery, vibrators can be a game-changer. They offer a gentle and effective way to expedite arousal, whether you’re engaging in coupled sex or solo masturbation. Vibrators provide intense stimulation to the clitoris, helping to increase blood flow and promote your own natural lubrication lubrication.

One of the key benefits of using a vibrators after child birth is their ability to give you an orgasm without the need for more invasive penetration. This can be particularly helpful for individuals who may experience discomfort or sensitivity in their pelvic floor area following childbirth. Vibrators allow you to focus on external stimulation, bypassing any potential discomfort associated with penetrative sex.

Using a vibrator during solo masturbation can also be an empowering way to reconnect with your body and explore your newfound postpartum sensations. Take the time to experiment with different vibrator settings and techniques, paying attention to what feels pleasurable and arousing for you.

Can You Use Kegal Balls After Childbirth?

Incorporating Kegel balls into your postpartum recovery routine can be a beneficial way to strengthen and tone your pelvic floor muscles after giving birth. Kegel balls, also known as Ben Wa balls or pelvic floor exercisers such as our Amyris, are small, weighted balls that are inserted into the vagina and held in place by the pelvic floor muscles. By engaging these muscles to keep the balls in place, you can effectively strengthen and tone your pelvic floor over time.

One of the key benefits of using Kegel balls after childbirth is their ability to help improve pelvic floor strength and control. Pregnancy and childbirth can weaken the pelvic floor muscles, leading to issues such as urinary incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse, and decreased sexual sensation. Kegel exercises, aided by Kegel balls, can help combat these issues by targeting and strengthening the muscles that support the pelvic organs.

Using Kegel balls is simple and discreet, making them easy to incorporate into your daily routine. Start by inserting the balls into your vagina while lying down or in a comfortable position. Once inserted, contract your pelvic floor muscles to hold the balls in place for a few seconds, then release and relax. Repeat this process for several repetitions, gradually increasing the duration and intensity of your contractions as your pelvic floor strength improves.

In addition to strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, using Kegel balls can also enhance sexual pleasure and sensation. As your pelvic floor muscles become stronger and more toned, you may notice improved vaginal tightness and increased arousal during sexual activity. This can lead to more satisfying and enjoyable sexual experiences for you and your partner.

 

In wrapping up our discussion on reclaiming intimacy after childbirth, let’s consider some actionable tips to help you ease back into sex or masturbation with comfort and confidence.

Firstly, let’s address any potential discomfort. It’s completely normal to experience some pain or discomfort postpartum, so don’t hesitate to take over-the-counter pain medication before engaging in sexual activity. If you feel any burning sensations afterwards, applying a cool compress can provide relief. Now, onto lubrication—your best friend in this journey! Vaginal dryness is common as your body adjusts, so be sure to grab a good-quality water-based lubricant (such as our Simply Lube). It’ll make everything smoother and more enjoyable for you. And speaking of enjoyment, foreplay is key. Take your time with it! Not only does it allow your body to produce its own lubrication, but it also builds anticipation and excitement. Explore different forms of foreplay, from sensual massages to mutual masturbation, and find what works best for you and your partner. Don’t forget about those Kegel exercises! Not only do they help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, but they can also enhance sensation during sex. Plus, they’re discreet and can be done anywhere—bonus!

Now, let’s talk scheduling. With a new baby in the picture, finding time for intimacy can be a challenge. That’s why it’s crucial to carve out dedicated time for you and your partner to connect. Whether it’s a cozy evening in or a spontaneous moment in the middle of the day between naps, prioritize intimacy whenever you can.

Last but certainly not least, communication is key. Be open and honest with your partner about your desires, concerns, and boundaries. Together, you can navigate this journey with understanding and mutual respect, ensuring a fulfilling and satisfying sex life for both of you.

So there you have it—some practical tips to help you reclaim your intimacy after childbirth. Remember, it’s all about honouring your body, your needs, and your desires as you embark on this journey of postpartum recovery.